I was a bit frustrated after reading and article called, "51 Things that a 25-Year-Old Single Girl Really Wants For Christmas". I saw this and thought, "YAY! This is for me!" But was tremendously disappointed in what the list was comprised of. I saw tons of comments pouring in from from women (even some men!) around the world complaining about the list... so I decided to make an attempt in correcting the list to better reflect what it is that we, 25-Year-Old Single WOMEN (not girls!) really do want for Christmas. Some of these things we may already have, but its always good to remind ourselves how important they are.
1. Solitude. Self-care is critical.
2. Everything on our Amazon book wish list!
3. Temporary commitments (ie: dog or cat, but only when you want it - not all the time).
4. For people to stop asking the same dreaded questions: "Why don't you have a boyfriend" "Are you ever going to settle down?" "Don't you want children?"
5. A French press (or some sort of coffee device).
6. Wine. Enough said.
7. An end to street harassment.
8. To be acknowledged and appreciated for our thoughts instead of our looks.
9. And end to slut shamming and victim blaming.
10. A pay raise.
11. For the American Government to stop supplying weapons and funding to Israel.
12. An "around the world" plane ticket.
13. Diving certificate.
14. A weekend, week, or month at a Yoga retreat.
15. The truth.
16. The ability to let go of relationships that no longer serve us.
17. Recognition of Palestine as an independent Nation-State.
18. Form more relationships with women that are not toxic, bitchy or competitive.
19. A subscription to the Economist or Time.
20. Student loan debt (or any debt for that matter) - GONE!
21. More wool socks (if you live in the Northern states) - More swim suits (if you live in the Southern states)
22. A professional massage.
23. #22 whenever we want.
24. Permanent removal of all unwanted hair.
*And if you want that hair, and end to shamming natural hair!
25. To cultivate a male-friendship (or two) that is not based on the possibility of him 'getting laid'.
26. Feel safe walking home alone regardless of the neighborhood, time of day, or clothes we are wearing.
27. Compassion.
28. Quitting the job we hate or getting a promotion in the job we love!
29. Completely deserved holiday bonus.
30. Periods without cramps. Forever.
*And if you don't get a period, that's cool too!
31. A group of friends whom value us for who we are and what we think.
32. The same group of friends (see 31) also makes us want to be better people.
33. Opportunity to further our education FOR FREE.
34. A warm beach within a 10min walk.
35. A snowy hill to go sledding and make snow angles within a 10min walk.
36. Dismantling of the socially constricted gender roles and expectations. In America but also Worldwide.
37. A carpet that vacuums itself.
38. Respect.
39. Infinity scarves in every size, shape, color, patter, fabric.
40. To stop seeing things as failures and instead morph them into learning opportunities.
41. A $100 Etsy gift certificate.
42. More time to volunteer.
43. Laundry that irons and folds itself.
44. Motivation and tools needed to learn a new language.
45. More conversations with family members.
46. A birth control made for MEN.
47. Appreciation.
48. A
49. Gratitude.
50. A visit from an old friend.
51. __________________ Your turn to fill in the blank! Let me know what you think the list is missing!
sunset views, affordable public transportation between cities, Spanish recognized as a national language in the U.S., a public apology for and the recognition of Native American genocide in the U.S.
ReplyDeleteSasway, you really nailed it with this list. ALL of them... so important. Thanks for sharing and thanks for your thoughtfulness.
DeleteAffordable and better healthcare, for people to stop abusing and farming animals, more renewable energy sources to decrease pollution, a strong leader (a woman for president!), for birth-control and STD checks to continue to be free for minors, more chocolate and bubble baths!
ReplyDeleteYAASS!! This is what we really need!
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